Friday, October 1, 2010


My dearest Reader,
I thought it time I cover the subject of courtesans. There is a lot of misconception as to how a courtesan went about her business and how society reacted to her. So I shall try my darnest to ensure we dispel with those dang misconceptions.

Though these women may have started on the streets, they were different from others not just in beauty but also in wit and the ability to entertain any man with the flick of a wrist while making it all look very respectable. She was a woman who dared break the rules with men and women alike. It is the high etiquette of whoring and the art of eroticizing not only her behavior in the bedchamber but her whole way of life. All of her lends to the idea of pleasing men whilst pleasing herself.

Beautiful, neat, clean, fashionable, cunning at the card table and games, proficient in arithmetic, language, be able to recite poetry, play at least two musical instruments and be a proficient singer. A true courtesan lives respectably in the sense that she would never be seen in a brothel or bartering herself on the streets like a common whore. Any and all terms and conditions were made into legal documents, drawn up and witnessed by lawyers. She had the business acumen of a merchant capitalist. She survived on her woman’s wit in a man’s world. They take control of their own lives knowing it comes at a high cost. The most successful courtesans were those that were able to distinguish themselves from every other pretty face.

Courtesans were admired, emulated, courted and even wed within the realm of London society since the 1700’s and yet readers and writers alike have a modern way of thinking that is warped. While other parts of the world had laws and regulations that kept courtesans in their place, no such limitations existed in London. Even in 1879 when French courtesan and actress Sarah Bernhardt came into London and attended the theatre, she was publicly hailed by all. Some even physically knelt before her, including several men of the aristocracy. She was invited to dinners and rides in Rotten Row alongside nobility by top London society. Not to say that people weren’t outraged by this, but to say that these women were outright shunned is a bloody lie. A courtesan was only really considered dangerous to society because she leveled out the playing field between all classes, not just financially but morally. What if respectable women wanted to be independent too? Then what?

These women sought more than money, they sought independence and power in a man’s world and knew how to bring men to their knees not just physically but emotionally while making them pay for it. Many rose from the beds of their protectors into the ranks of aristocracy, though many also snubbed marriage to such men for they knew the moment they submitted to matrimony, they revert to a sense of powerlessness. To rise in the ranks of society as a courtesan, she had to frequent places of society, as well as best display all of their assets, while demonstrating refinement. Having her own theatre or opera box was key. It was an investment similar to taking out a billboard. She also attended pleasure gardens, halls, masquerades, rode her horse, mingling publicly with people well below herself. People not only tolerated it, there were crowds of men and women of all classes and quality who gathered to witness her public displays. She was a celebrity in her own right usually made a celebrity by an aristocrat who had ‘discovered’ her.

She attended dance halls to upkeep business or start it. The most luxurious and fashionable of dance halls during the Victorian era was the Portland Rooms, known as Mott’s, where the most expensive courtesans sought customers between midnight and four or five in the morning. A dress code was enforced: gentlemen not wearing dress coats and white waistcoats were refused admission. Skittles was known to frequent Mott’s, even though she was one of the highest paid courtesans of her time. It was all about building her brand. Men who wanted to engage her, usually sent other men to her door asking if she was interested. Think of grade school all over again...

A well to do courtesan had to do more than look good, she had to live the lifestyle she was selling herself to. She could have up to as many as thirty servants and some were known to boast not one, not two, but THREE chefs, not including the kitchen staff. All servants were attired in elaborate, expensive liveries. Her home was decorated with fresh flowers at all times, all the rooms were scented with patchouli and vetiver. Every room held the most expensive and latest in furnishings. Her china alone would put the Queen’s set to shame. She kept a carriage and four AND several other vehicles that would best display her as she rides. She was never vulgar in appearance and she looked like a woman of the first rank. She enhanced her beauty with rouge, milk of roses, strawberry water and even used the ridiculously expensive pearl powder available for a guinea an ounce to enhance complexions. If she had freckles, she covered them like any other respectable lady.

Just her upkeep each year from milliner to hats, shows, stays, perfume, jewelry, and hosiery alone could be worth 8,000 pounds. Which is nearly half a million dollars a year, not including housekeeping, servant’s wages, furniture, travelling, horses, theatres, opera and any form of entertainment. She had to have skills of laying out a dinner party to match those of erotic technique. The way she sat and spoke and arranged the folds of her gown exceeded that of nobility.

Cora Pearl is quoted as saying, “My independence is my real fortune.” In 1864, the craze in Paris was for women to have bright red hair, which they obtained by applying a mixture of ammonia and powdered brick dust. Cora Pearl whose hair was dark, was the first to unfurl the fashion in London. She even dyed her dog blue to match one of her outfits (unfortunately, the dog died shortly afterward....) There's much more to cover on this subject, but we can't have your eyes rolling to the back of your head. I promise to touch on courtesans more throughout the coming months.
Until next time...
Cheers and much love,
Delilah Marvelle


SiNn said...

yAy! newbooks r gonna be out of urs does a happy dance and one coming out on mybirthday score thats an added incentive great post cant wait to read thesebooks I loveeddd the book trailor

Charlotte Featherstone said...

Fabulous post! Thoroughly enjoyed it, and learned something new, too. I have two really wonderful research books. The first is Harlots, Whores and Hookers--amazing information on the history of prostitution and how it was looked at, and the other one I forget, and I'm too lazy to traipse up two flights of stairs to my study to find it! but if you're interested let me know! lol!

Lila DiPasqua said...

Great post, Delilah! To quote my favorite French courtesan (17th c.), Ninon de l'Enclos,“If God had to give a woman wrinkles, He might at least have put them on the soles of her feet”.

Funny how in hundreds of years times haven't changed much as we women today concern ourselves with wrinkles, too. It's even more problematic if having wrinkles can effect your marketability.

I so enjoy your blog! Looking forward to your next post! Oh, and I can't wait for that Scandal series. :)

Obe said...

Oh very good post, yes I bet those dear ladies had something to tell us. I quite enjoyed this. Do carry on!


Delilah Marvelle said...

My dearest SiNn :D,
I'm so thrilled you enjoyed the book trailer!! It was so much fun to play producer and screen writer, lol.

My dearest Charlotte,
I am *always* looking for books. Email me anytime with any list you think would be up my alley. And thank you!!! That is so wonderful of you to think of me, knowing how busy you are with your own writing ;)

My dearest Lila,
Ninon should be quoted as *our* favorite courtesan, lol. I'm so thrilled you enjoyed the post, and totally agree. Women's concerns haven't really changed much. Just the environment. Thanks for posting!

My dearest Obe (nancy!),
LOL, you are so right. I wish I could have gotten a hold of one of these ladies and got all the stories. I wouldn't have to worry about coming up with another story idea for some time...Thank you for posting! said...

I loved this post and I always enjoy stories that include courtesans or as I refer to them forward thinking independent women! I actually think some of the modern day "business women" could learn a thing or two from them in personality skills and correct "marketing" techniques.

I'm still looking for a story that has a courtesan that is more "out of the ordinary" - one that is a little two plump or has freckles but someone with that great personality that makes everyone look to her with awe.

Delilah Marvelle said...

My dearest Jeanne,
My favorite "out of the ordinary" courtesan would have been Ninon de L'enclos. She wasn't a beauty by any means but had a way of driving men wild. She had men crawling at her feet up until she was 80!!! I have an earlier post about Ninon, you can check out. Thank you for posting!!!